Andrea Wideman

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  I wonder how my mother-in-law will react.

  by Andrea Wideman in

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  my mother-in-law is a jw.

  she is the one that gave the knowledge book and took such and interest in my baptism that she made sure whomever needed to know did about why i wasn't with the other people getting baptized that day.

  i couldn't fit in the seat.

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  Andrea Wideman

  When he joined the Navy he says that pretty much DAed himself. He does know of the pain she could cause after all she raised him and caused him tons of it. Thank you for your concern.
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  oHi, short introduction

  by Sugarcane in

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  glad i found this board and hope to have some interesting discussions.

  i'll post my story later today, but in the meantime; i'm a single parent with 2 kids, was a jw for 26 years in total (born one, left at 17 years, went back at 21), became inactive 4 years ago and disassociated myself 4 weeks ago!.

  my experience with the bible org.

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  Andrea Wideman

  As to your ancestry I would guess Jamaica because they raise sugarcane there.
  Sorry that you had so much pain in the past but now you can build a better future for you and your kids.
  I am very new to the forum too. My husband Joel is the one that got me started. He told me that I should post here and share my story. He said it helps others to heal. Thank you very much for sharing your story. You truly are a survivor to get out of the Borg with your powers of thinking intact.
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  I wonder how my mother-in-law will react.

  by Andrea Wideman in

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  2. experiences

  my mother-in-law is a jw.

  she is the one that gave the knowledge book and took such and interest in my baptism that she made sure whomever needed to know did about why i wasn't with the other people getting baptized that day.

  i couldn't fit in the seat.

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  Due to her illness she isn't allowed to take my kids out by herself in case she has an episode and thinks she is seeing demons. Also has been known to accuse her best JW friends of trying to poison her food. This stuff happens when her medication needs to be adjusted.
  Distance can be done because she lives 10 miles away and rules will have to be worked on as time goes on. For example no giving the kids literature and lecturing them on the evils of movies, tv shows, books, etc.That is Joel's and my job to guide them in their choices.
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  After my un-DF'ing, I have sent a letter to everyone in my hall.

  by kwintestal in

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  in the final installment of my story, i am done with my local congregation now.

  in the past month, i have been df'd, un-df'd attended a meeting where i shook everyones hand and smiled ... and now i have sent everyone in the hall this letter, roughly 60 addresses:.

  open letter to the north congregation of jehovahs witnesses.

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  Andrea Wideman

  Your letter brings to mind something that was told to me the day of my baptism. I was told to watch my kids carefully because not everyone at the assembly would be a JW. Now I know that what they should have been saying is be careful of your kids because they could be molested by a JW while at the assembly. You know the more I hear about this topic the more grateful I become that my family is out of it.
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  A Story and A Little Bit of Grattitude

  by MrsBee in

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  i never was a jw, went to kh a few times as a teenager, didnt feel comfortable with the things said, alot of my associates as an adult were brought up witnesses, but ya know, were pretty much disowned by their families as adults because they chose not to be jw's.. my husband is a d'fed jw, i knew he had been a jw, but it didnt even cross my mind that he would go back to them..

  well, a couple of months after we were married ( around september of last year) this guy started calling our home asking him i guess to come to the kh.

  i flipped out, i started not talking to him, i was very emotionally distraught over this matter, and then i went from being sad to damn mad, and i would just ignore him, because in my mind i saw this as as something that will break up my marriage (my feelings on that havent changed) while searching the internet trying to find things to change his mind about this religion something great happened, i started reading the bible and just in general started to feel better as a person myself and how it was ok for me to feel how i felt, because i felt like i was bamboozled because as much as i love my husband, i would have thought differently about marriage if i knew he was going to become a witness again.

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  You are not allowed to be an individual. You are suppose to think what the GB thinks and do what they say. Anything else gets frowned upon. I was told that it is important for my kids to go to all meeetings. The problem is that so many of them are at night when they should be sleeping. I was constantly asked where they were during these evening meetings. I said at home in bed. My answer wasn't well liked.
  When a new statement was released, by the GB, and I asked questions just so I could understand where they were coming from I got funny looks.
  I hope you have a speedy, safe, and pain free delivery.
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  I wonder how my mother-in-law will react.

  by Andrea Wideman in

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  2. experiences

  my mother-in-law is a jw.

  she is the one that gave the knowledge book and took such and interest in my baptism that she made sure whomever needed to know did about why i wasn't with the other people getting baptized that day.

  i couldn't fit in the seat.

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  Andrea Wideman

  My mother-in-law is a JW. She is the one that gave the Knowledge book and took such and interest in my baptism that she made sure whomever needed to know did about why I wasn't with the other people getting baptized that day. I couldn't fit in the seat. It hurt me terribly and I spent the day crying
  She is also a person that does everyhting the GB says. I do still want to have a relationship with her but don't want me or my kids to be harassed by her for the choices made. By now my local KH should have received my letter of disassociation and she has friends there. My goal wasn't to hurt her with my leaving,the woman is under psychiatric care because she has delusions, but once I found out about the inconsistencies in the doctrine I knew that I had to write that letter. I couldn't stay with a religion where I am being lied to. Definitely couldn't continue raising my kids in something I no longer believed in .
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  KH meeting - boring!

  by jstalin in

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  i'm not a jw but a friend of mine who is a jw invited me to the memorial service at the kh this year.

  i was raised catholic but now i'm agnostic/atheist.

  one thing that struck me was how horribly sterile and boring the memorial service was.

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  Andrea Wideman

  Boring and dour certainly. I love to sing but those songs are so tough to do. I couldn't really enjoy the singing though I did try very hard to do that.
  Also one other thing I noticed is the way they speed read the scriptures. They mention the chapter and verse, rush to find it as fast as possible, speed through it, and then the process starts again. They don't stop and really think about the beauty of the words.
  The really dour part is being judged all the time. No matter how much you know or how well behaved your kids might be they always have a comment on how you can do better.
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  The Book Signing that ended in a JC Meeting...

  by jesussaves in

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  hey y'all,.

  i posted a few months back that my first novel, "what a sista should do" had been published and is now available in stores.

  my very first booksigning was in june at a well known bookstore in our area.

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  Andrea Wideman

  It is wonderful that your book is doing so well. Congratulations!
  It was very sad to read about how your family, who does strive so hard to do what they feel is right, is still so persecuted by those who claim to love them. That kind of behavior is not loving but controlling. It is wonderful that you got out and are happy. Andrea
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  Hi im a new member!

  by skinnyboy in

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  after several attempts to log on, im finally in!

  woohoo!.

  well my story goes as follows, grew up a dub, in northern england, mum, dad, and the rest of us brood, dad becomes an elder sisters pioneers, and me and me brother were regular "publishers".

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  Andrea Wideman

  Welcome. I am a new member too but so far all I have felt is welcome.
  I am amazed by your story and how you got disfellowshipped. There are some bits of it that sound familiar. I did see different treatment for different families. Those who had grown up JW's were allowed much more slack than those of us studying.
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  My Journey

  by Andrea Wideman in

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  my journey to find a religion i could believe in wholeheartedly started as a young adult.

  i was raised as a catholic but couldn't say for certain that i believed all that i was taught..

  i had a mother who was a catholic and a father who was a divorced protestant.

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  Andrea Wideman

  You are very right that children do influence out decisions. We want the best for them always. Thank you very much for the open welcome.